Docker service restart policy - stop old service when new service is really ready

Hallo,
I have tomcat running as docker service in a swarm. When the service starts it loads lots of data into memory, which can take depending on the amount of data between 10 and 30 minutes.

My problem is when I update the service (order:start-first) the old container is stopped before the new container has intialized its data and is so not ready to use.

A promising approach seemed to me the health check configuration in my docker-compose:

healthcheck:
      test: ["CMD", "curl", "-f", "http://localhost:8080/areyouready"]
      interval: 10s
      timeout: 10s
      retries: 30

The healthcheck works fine but the old service also shuts down while the test returns 1 (not healthy) for the new service.

I also tried to handle the SIGTERM in my application: The running service gets the sigterm and checks whether it should already stop depending on the state of the new service:

 Runtime.getRuntime().addShutdownHook(new Thread()
        {
            @Override
            public void run()
            {
                // via db access determine the state of the new started containers, but I don't know
                // how to prevent my tomcat from stopping here
            }
        }

Besides that I didn’t manage to prevent my tomcat from stopping it just didn’t seem to be the right way.

My desired solution would be to configure something like this:

update_config: 
    order: start-first
    a-kind-of-stop-condition: ["CMD", "curl", "-f", "http://localhost:8080/areyouready"]

the condition request should then go to the new created container and if it succeeds the old may be stopped.

What I want to avoid is working with delay-settings, because I want to avoid running the old version and the new version in parallel.

It would be great if you could point me into the right direction.

Kind regards, Sebastian